Formal/Informal Parties and Take Your Shoes Off!

Came across this cool graphic from MFAMB and thought it was really useful.

Though the “informal” place setting is as formal as I’ll ever get. If I even get that formal. No, parties at our household are strictly “get your own drink, and no I don’t have more crackers for the hummus” -type affairs.

I don’t throw parties where people come in dress shoes and stilettos. In fact, if you come over, I would like you to remove your shoes, so make sure you wear cute socks and get a pedicure. Unless you have a foot odor problem or fungus, of course. Then you’re allowed to keep them on.

Baby Brownie¬†WILL lick the hardwood floors, no matter how many times I tell her no. She’s 8 months old, so she doesn’t understand why you shouldn’t do that.

Recently I came across an Apartment Therapy post where people who like to wear shoes in the house said things like “If you’re so obsessive/paranoid about having people take their shoes off at your house then maybe you shouldn’t have parties” and “You’re the host and you’re supposed to accommodate your guests so why would you force them to take their shoes off?”. To such people I say, “You would never come to my parties because I would never be friends with selfish people like you”.

I really don’t enforce the no-shoes rule at parties — it just gets too hard. But I like it when considerate friends ask if they should take their shoes off. That shows respect and I appreciate it greatly.

I grew up in an Asian household where wearing shoes in the house was a BIG no-no. In fact, if I ever wear shoes in a house (even in a shoe-on house) I automatically feel dirty and rude.

Please respect my culture. It’s a good excuse to keep my house clean.

So yes, we are an informal household, but taking your shoes off is one point of etiquette I really appreciate. That is all.

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4 Comments on Formal/Informal Parties and Take Your Shoes Off!

  1. Mark
    November 13, 2012 at 10:03 pm (5 years ago)

    You are absolutely correct. Taking off shoes when visiting is just basic good manners. We take off our shoes and wear slippers, our guests also are expected to remove their shoes. If they want to wear footwear in our house then they can bring slippers with them. We are in the UK and thankfully most people we know take off their shoes. At present we are in Budapest staying with my fiancées parents. We took our slippers with us change from shoes/boots to slippers as soon as we get in. For me this is basic etiquette and not to do so would be simply rude.

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  2. Sam
    November 24, 2012 at 7:37 am (4 years ago)

    Yeah, no one ever wears their shoes into our house! Your shoes have been in all sorts of dirty places… public bathrooms, muddy sidewalks, parks where dogs poop everywhere!… Who knows what could be stuck to the bottom of a shoe (the idea that it has touched a public bathroom floor especially freaks me out…) When we were house hunting, everyone, even the realtors, had their shoes off when going into open houses. (Maybe it depends on where you are – in Canada there’s a good chance it was snowy or rainy outside, making shoes especially messy…) When we visit people we always take our shoes off – if they don’t think it’s necessary they’ll tell us!

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  3. Kristina
    January 17, 2014 at 9:03 am (3 years ago)

    Also, the seafood utensils will be on top of the plate.

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