Came across this cool graphic from MFAMB and thought it was really useful.
Though the “informal” place setting is as formal as I’ll ever get. If I even get that formal. No, parties at our household are strictly “get your own drink, and no I don’t have more crackers for the hummus” -type affairs.
I don’t throw parties where people come in dress shoes and stilettos. In fact, if you come over, I would like you to remove your shoes, so make sure you wear cute socks and get a pedicure. Unless you have a foot odor problem or fungus, of course. Then you’re allowed to keep them on.
Baby Brownie WILL lick the hardwood floors, no matter how many times I tell her no. She’s 8 months old, so she doesn’t understand why you shouldn’t do that.
Recently I came across an Apartment Therapy post where people who like to wear shoes in the house said things like “If you’re so obsessive/paranoid about having people take their shoes off at your house then maybe you shouldn’t have parties” and “You’re the host and you’re supposed to accommodate your guests so why would you force them to take their shoes off?”. To such people I say, “You would never come to my parties because I would never be friends with selfish people like you”.
I really don’t enforce the no-shoes rule at parties — it just gets too hard. But I like it when considerate friends ask if they should take their shoes off. That shows respect and I appreciate it greatly.
I grew up in an Asian household where wearing shoes in the house was a BIG no-no. In fact, if I ever wear shoes in a house (even in a shoe-on house) I automatically feel dirty and rude.
Please respect my culture. It’s a good excuse to keep my house clean.
So yes, we are an informal household, but taking your shoes off is one point of etiquette I really appreciate. That is all.